How to Prepare for Marriage
There are lots of things you can do today to make you truly ready for your future marriage. Whether or not you’re in a serious relationship is not even an issue. The earlier you start working on yourself, the better.
Here are five steps to get you started:
Review your habits.
Do you have habits that you think might annoy or hurt your future spouse? For instance, do you have poor time management skills, or do you typically leave your dirty laundry lying around? If you think you could use others’ opinions, don’t hesitate to ask your closest family members and friends. Allow them to be candid though, not fearing that you will be offended. Enhance your conflict resolution methods. Take advantage of your single years in terms of defining your conflict resolution style and adjusting it where necessary. Recall the last two or three times you were in conflict with someone. How did you fix the problem? Were there things you think you should have done differently?
Be more forgiving of yourself.
Nobody’s perfect, even you, so learn to be more lighthearted about yourself and your mistakes. Start with your minor faux pas, like never learning to pronounce certain words right or always losing your car keys. Rather than be angry, laugh at the situation and get on with your day. Embracing yourself for your all that you are can be so liberating.
Look for opportunities to serve.
The strongest marriages are those made up of individuals who are ready to sacrifice for each other. In your single years, you can cultivate a sense of servanthood. Look for opportunities to serve your community or your local church. This could mean volunteering to babysit for single mom, driving an elderly neighbor to a friend’s house, or participating in your church’s outreach programs. With servanthood being an everyday part of your life now, you will be prepared for it in marriage later on.
Take stock of your friends.
Finally, It’s important that you have friends who will support you and encourage you to become a good spouse one day. With a simple friendship inventory, you will know if you have such people in your life. Begin by asking yourself a few questions. One, do they value marriage? Two, do they respect people of the opposite gender? Three, are they brave enough to correct you when you’re wrong? They may not see themselves from this perspective. If you tell them that you need their encouragement in certain areas, they may be glad to give it to you. Keep in mind that it’s not a mistake to choose your friends. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to surround yourself with people who will help you become a better person.